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more than I wanted to know So, I'm at my brother's house, babysitting Heath while he goes out with some friends. We chatted for an hour and a half before he left, and I learned some stuff that I really didn't want to learn. My SIL has had an eating disorder for a lot longer than I imagined. She started at least in 2004, back when she started losing all that weight. I think back now and kick myself for saying anything positive about the weight loss..it was only reinforcing things. Of course, we didn't know. But we should have, as it occurred quite quickly. He told me that she'd had an affair before Heath was born and became pregnant and had an abortion. He hadn't told Mom or Dad...he didn't want Mom to worry, as he knew she would. And I can't get it out of my mind. He asked me for my thoughts in all of this, and I told him that I was sad, but that I understood that he needed to do what he needed to do. He thanked me..said that I was the only person not giving him grief over his decision to leave. I told him that I couldn't pass judgement..that I wasn't the one living his life and only he knew the full extent of what all had occurred. I told him that I'd heard bits and pieces over the years, and that I didn't know how he stayed as long as he did...and I was sure that I didn't even know the half of what went on. That's when he told me about the affair and the abortion. This is really the first time that my brother and I have really talked about anything important. And while what he's told me is tearing me up inside, it was nice that he actually talked to me. Before he left tonight, he said that if Artboy and I ever wanted to hang out, to give him a call. I think I'll take him up on that. It would be nice to actually be close to my brother. We used to be when we were younger, but when he hit high school, he started going down the wrong path, and I pretty much didn't want anything to do with him. Better go. I'm using his laptop, and i'm not sure how long these batteries are going to hold out. And I cannot find a charger anywhere. *sigh* |